What is Consent?

 

Consent

 

The term “consent” means the affirmative, unambiguous and voluntary agreement to engage in a specific sexual activity during a sexual encounter which can be revoked at any time.  Consent cannot be:

 

Given by an individual who:

 

The following is to be used for informational, educational, and preventative purposes.

 

A person CANNOT give consent:

(Regardless of what he or she might verbalize):

 

What does consent mean in intimate relationships?

 

Consent is when one person agrees to or gives permission to another person to do something. Consent means agreeing to an action based on your knowledge of what that action involves, its likely consequences and having the option of saying no. 

The absence of no does not mean yes. Consent is a very important part of a sexual relationship. Each person is responsible for their own comfort and safety. Consent is an important part of healthy sexuality and both people should be involved in the decision to participate in sexual activity.

 

Consent Is

 

Kissing Doesn't Always Need to Lead to Sex

 

Everyone has the right to say no and everyone has the right to change their mind at any time regardless of their past experiences with other people or the person they are with.

 

The Perks of Consent

 

 

What if the person you're with is unable to give consent?

 

Drugs and alcohol can affect people’s ability to make decisions, including whether or not they want to be sexual with someone else. This means that if someone is really out of it, they cannot give consent.

 

Being with them in a sexual way when they don't know what is going on is the same as rape.

 

If you see a person who is unable and is being intimate with someone, you should pull them aside and try your best to make sure that person is safe and knows what he or she is doing. If it’s the opposite situation, and your friend is trying to engage in a sexual encounter with someone who is out if it, you should try to pull them aside and stop them from continuing their behavior

 

Responsibility with Consent

 

Giving consent is not the sole responsibility of one person. An initiator of sexual activity is also responsible for obtaining effective consent before engaging in sexual behavior.

 

How do you know if the person you are with has given their consent?

 

The only way to know for sure if a person has given consent is if they tell you. Its not always easy to let people know that you are not happy about something. Sometimes the person you're with might look like they are happy doing something, but inside they are not. They might not know what to say or how to tell you that they are uncomfortable. The best way to determine if someone is uncomfortable or unwilling in any situation, especially a sexual one, is to simply ask. Here are some examples of the questions you might ask:

 

However, if the person incapacitated (as described above) even if consent is verbalized, it is not consent!

 

Recognizing Non-Verbal Communication

 

There are many ways of communicating. The look on a person’s face or their body language are also a way of communicating. Often nonverbal communication has more meaning than the words that come out of their mouth.

 

Some examples of nonverbal communication that signal a person is uncomfortable with the situation are:

 

Asking questions and being aware of body language helps you to determine if the person is consenting and feeling comfortable, or not consenting and feeling uncomfortable. If you get a negative or non-committal answer to any of the questions above, or if the person's body language resembles any of the above examples, you should stop what you are doing and talk to them about it.

 

Slowing Things Down      

 

Take your time. Making sure you are both comfortable and want the same thing, talk about how far you want to go. This will make the time you spend together more satisfying and enjoyable for you both. Things can move very quickly. Below are ways to say "slow down" if you feel that things are moving too quickly.

 

 

Stopping

 

You always have the right to say no. You always have the right to change your mind at any time regardless of your past experience with the person or others. Below are some things you can say or do if you want so stop: